The Official Advice Thread.

Richard · October 2011

Ok guys here is the official advice thread. Give advice to ppl when they need it.

right now im taking a small tiny break from the online world but i will be lurking and commenting when i can.

[Deleted User] · October 2011

I was needing this so bad.

Guys. I'm kinda desperate and I don't know what to do. I need some advice.

Well. I've already commented over here there I'm probably going to move to another country next year. Like... If everything goes well, it will certainly happen. The thing is.. I have this best friend. Basically, he's my only friend over here and I'm his only friend too. And.. When I mean I'm going to move.. I'm probably moving for the rest of my life. That means he'll be alone over here. The problem? He has some depression tendencies and stuff. And I have no idea how he's going to face that. And I'm affraid of telling him and about his reaction. I'm probably not moving till August of the next year, but I'm already looking for paperwork and all of that stuff. I have to take a exam, send portfolios and it will take a while. But I'm not thinking of telling him before everything gets done and I'm sure that I'll move. What do you think? Should I tell him about that? Or keep hiding till something concrete? I have no clue guys. I'm really upset

Richard · October 2011

Rick i think you need to find the right time to tell him,buddy.

aaron · October 2011

I don't think this has to be stickied....

BTW I'll give my insight in a sec.

aaron · October 2011

I was needing this so bad.

Guys. I'm kinda desperate and I don't know what to do. I need some advice.

Well. I've already commented over here there I'm probably going to move to another country next year. Like... If everything goes well, it will certainly happen. The thing is.. I have this best friend. Basically, he's my only friend over here and I'm his only friend too. And.. When I mean I'm going to move.. I'm probably moving for the rest of my life. That means he'll be alone over here. The problem? He has some depression tendencies and stuff. And I have no idea how he's going to face that. And I'm affraid of telling him and about his reaction. I'm probably not moving till August of the next year, but I'm already looking for paperwork and all of that stuff. I have to take a exam, send portfolios and it will take a while. But I'm not thinking of telling him before everything gets done and I'm sure that I'll move. What do you think? Should I tell him about that? Or keep hiding till something concrete? I have no clue guys. I'm really upset

I've talked more in depth about you and your future paths and career choices, etc, so I know this move is a big step for you and a big leap forward. I know you don't like being stuck down there in Brazil so you should definitely keep the move on. You have a good, long year to spend time with this guy so maybe you should tell him soon so that he can let it sink and have a long time to spend as friends before you leave. However, once you leave there is a danger of his depression overtaking him. You might want to talk to him about seeing a doctor, psychologist, and try to get him to talk to more people I guess? He needs to have more friends while you're away, even if he takes meds to stop his depression. So see how it all plays out. You have a long year where a lot could happen.

[Deleted User] · October 2011

Az. I'm glad I can share this tough and twist choice in my life with you buddy. You have no idea how much it means to me. I'll basically start my life over. Like a new beggining. That really scares me. But it's now or never, you know? I have to act and do something.

I really wanted to tell him, but I don't know. I think he'll do anything to stop me, you know? He already goes to a psychologist and takes medicine. I am really worried. I don't know.

Thank you so much for helping me, Az.

Joshie · October 2011

Henrick, you deserve way more friends in real-life!

Nick · October 2011

yea henrick!!! your pretty amazing!!!

[Deleted User] · October 2011

Aww. Thanks guys. I wished I had more friends too.

But I have you guys.

Richard · October 2011

Aww. Thanks guys. I wished I had more friends too.
But I have you guys.

>-

Liz · October 2011

Henrick, you should probably tell him sooner rather than later. He will probably know that this is a lengthy process so if you tell him later than it will probably really upset him that you waited so long. And Aaron's right, telling him sooner will give him more time to absorb the information. Than he will be better prepared. It's natural for him to want to talk you out of it. But make sure he understands that you have already made your decision and that you guys should focus on the time you have to hang out together. I hope this helps and good luck

[Deleted User] · October 2011

Guys. Thank you so much for helping me. It means a lot!

I still don't know guys. Probably, I will know if I'm definitily going or not by March of the next year. So, he would have 6 months to sink the idea in his head. I don't wanna tell him before having sure that I'm going because I think he'll do anything to convince me from the opposite. I'm sure he'll think I'm crazy and stuff. He'll try to persuade me to stay. I just don't wanna get too much of psychological tension while I'm focused on TOEFL exams, making a portfolio and stuff. Do you think that I'm being too selfish guys?

Oh Jack.. I'm going to Canada

And I didn't forget about our task, bud! I just need to find some time and concentration

RyGuy · October 2011

Henrick, you should probably tell him sooner rather than later. He will probably know that this is a lengthy process so if you tell him later than it will probably really upset him that you waited so long. And Aaron's right, telling him sooner will give him more time to absorb the information. Than he will be better prepared. It's natural for him to want to talk you out of it. But make sure he understands that you have already made your decision and that you guys should focus on the time you have to hang out together. I hope this helps and good luck

As always I will have to agree with my hpf-twin haha :P I was thinking the same thing lol

Nick · October 2011

henrick no i dont think your being selfish. you cant live your life around your friends needs or his wants. this is your life. You need to do what makes you happy.

[Deleted User] · October 2011

I know Nick. But sometimes... I have this terrible feeling of guilt inside me. I will never forgive myself if he turns out a miserable person, or even worse. I was never really good thinking about myself you know?

Nick · October 2011

yea i know. but weather or not he turns out to be a miserable person is entirely up to him. he has to choose to get better.

Nick · October 2011

henrick you are an amazing gifted and talented person and i just want you to live up to your potential. you have been an amazing friend to me and i wish you all the best.

[Deleted User] · October 2011

Thanks so much, Nick! But I guarantee that you all are more amazing and better friends. I love you guys. I just wanted to thank you about everything. You've been really important to me. No matter what, I'll never forget you and all of what you have done for me. Thank you so much guys.

Liz · October 2011

Rick, you need to pm me....now!

Popkin · October 2011

Henrick, I wish I could give you a hug buddy. >:D< But there comes a time when you have to think about number one. Of course you love your friends and you care about their feelings, but you absolutely have to live your life and you have to learn to let go of that guilt. I was kind of like you, always worrying about other people and how what I did would affect them! Lol It can be a stressful way to live. I think with age, it gets better, too. You're such a good person, Henrick. You deserve to be happy and live out your dreams

And I think you're right about when to tell him. If you need to get through exams and building your portfolio without worrying about this just yet, then tell him when you are ready. Six months is plenty of time for him to absorb this info.

[Deleted User] · October 2011

Aww Pops. You're so sweet

I've always been like that, you know? I always want to please people. I'm that kind of person that normally thinks: "it doesn't matter the place, it matters the people". What scares me the most is fighting with him before leaving. I just don't wanna fight. I hate fights. And the weird thing is that he's my best friend and I don't have a clue of how he's going to act. It has been already been tough hiding from him my studies and stuff.

Thank you so much, Pops. I wish I was a better person tough. I could be a better one, I guess. Sometimes I want to help and stuff and I screw everything.

I don't know for how long I'll be able to hide what I'm working on. But I guess that way will work out. There's a chance of he getting mad because I've hide from him.. But.. I think it will be better, I don't know. haha

Thank you so much for ur words, Pops! You are amazing!
By the way.. Ur 2000th post!

Popkin · October 2011

Oh yeah you're right - 2,000 :P

I know what you mean. I was and probably still am a people pleaser, too. And sometimes it's hard to gauge the people we're closest to. We know them so well, yet have no idea how they're going to react to something big like this. Bah, it's just a hard situation all around. I hope he takes it okay and understands. And if he's your best friend, in the end after the initial shock wears off, he should want the best for you and really be happy for you.

Nick · October 2011

you both are awesome people. the world is a better place because your in it.

[Deleted User] · October 2011

Guys. Do you think that, sometimes, I talk too much?

Martin1 · October 2011

Guys. Do you think that, sometimes, I talk too much?

I don't think you talk enough!

Martin1 · October 2011

I mean, seriously. I've almost caught up to you in posts!

[Deleted User] · October 2011

Hahahaha lmao Mart!

I mean... Sometimes I don't know what's better, you know? To keep things for yourself and don't expose ur feelings, or say what you really think. Even if there are some consequences with that.

AllStar87 · October 2011

To be honest, I dont express my feelings in life. I really only do it here. The only ppl I go to for problems and advice are my brother and his friends. Rick, you see how much support HPF gives you when you express your thoughts. Don't be afraid. I'm still trying to be like that.

Joshie · October 2011

No, Rick, you don't talk too much, your a great person and always will be.

[Deleted User] · October 2011

Yeah. I'm kinda like you Chris. I'm so affraid of letting people down or disappointing them, you know? So, many times, I just keep things for myself. I don't know if that's a good thing, though.

Over here, well... U don't have to face the person, you just write. So, sometimes, I think I say too much haha lol.

Aww. Thanks, Josh. U amazing too man

Richard · October 2011

Rick you talk too little actually LOL

[Deleted User] · November 2011

Guys. Here I am again. Haha lmao. Come on, ask for advices you too!

Well.. I need some!
I really want to read this book, but it hasn't been published over here yet. Although, I can find the book in english over here. I can reasonably read well in english but.. Sometimes, when I face a word I don't know the meaning, I get distracted and I loose my "line of thinking". And It's a book I'm really waiting for. But... I don't know if I'll have a better experience if I wait for the book in portuguese and dive into it without being interrupt by language issues.

What do you think?

aaron · November 2011

Guys. Here I am again. Haha lmao. Come on, ask for advices you too!

Well.. I need some!
I really want to read this book, but it hasn't been published over here yet. Although, I can find the book in english over here. I can reasonably read well in english but.. Sometimes, when I face a word I don't know the meaning, I get distracted and I loose my "line of thinking". And It's a book I'm really waiting for. But... I don't know if I'll have a better experience if I wait for the book in portuguese and dive into it without being interrupt by language issues.

What do you think?

The Death Cure? Think of it as a matter of Part 2. The finale you've been waiting for for a while....would you rather download it in English and watch a quality on your computer, or watch it on the big screen in Brazil? Take your pick. :P

[Deleted User] · March 2012

Hey guys! I thought you would be able to help me ^^

I have this prom party tonight (it's the first one I'm going to!

) and I don't know which tie I should use:

I was thinking about the striped one. It's elegant, but I'm not sure if it's too serious for the occasion. What do you think??

Richard · March 2012

It depends on the Tux Rick. Try to match it, but I do like the striped one and the blue one.

Wolf_Potter · March 2012

Nice, but what color is your shirt? I like the first one

[Deleted User] · March 2012

It will be a dark white... Like really really light gray that's almost white, but it's not white

Richard · March 2012

The striped one is perfect then. The blue will stand out too much.

Wolf_Potter · March 2012

Yeah I think the striped one is the best option.

mattStrelow · March 2012

I can't understand how Rick isn't the coolest guy ever that everyone wants to be friends with.
He's like one of the most awesome people I've ever met online

[Deleted User] · March 2012

Aw Matt. Thanks so much bud. I wouldn't be anything without you guys. You are much more amazing than myself and I'm glad I've met you.

And I decided for the striped one! Thank you so much for your help guys ^^

Ash · March 2012

Good choice, have a good time

[Deleted User] · March 2012

Thanks man ^^

aaron · March 2012

Definitely the striped.

[Deleted User] · March 2012

I liked how the striped has a Hogwarts mood in it.

[/Potter Nerd] LMAO

[Deleted User] · March 2012

Damn. Now I'm not sure which perfume should I use. Unfortunately, I can't make you smell them LMAO

Pumpkinjuice · March 2012

im falling for this girl who has a BF she is very happy theres no chance in hell of it ending anytime soon

Unless you discreetly do something mean that both of them blame the other for, create a jealousy drama or spread false rumours about them >-) Or better... check her up and make her cheat on him.

Or simply go the easy route: Give her up.

Pumpkinjuice · March 2012

Damn. Now I'm not sure which perfume should I use. Unfortunately, I can't make you smell them LMAO

This better be an April Fool's joke. B-)

[Deleted User] · March 2012

It's not man. I have no idea which one should I use. I'm not a really social penguin.

Pumpkinjuice · March 2012

It's not man. I have no idea which one should I use. I'm not a really social penguin.

Haha, I was just kidding. And you can't help but be a little cynical on this day. That is to say, more than usual. Spray a little bit of everything to save you the trouble of choosing and I'm sure you'll smell good. B-)

Pumpkinjuice · March 2012

Technically, I fooled you there, without any intentions of doing so.

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